Early in my ministry I sometimes felt alone. I shouldered most of the ups and downs of church leadership alone.
Not because no cared, but I thought that was the way it should be. I carried the burdens of pastoral care, budgetary concerns, volunteer enlistment, and church growth issues alone. Other than possibly my wife, “nobody knows the trouble I’d seen.”
So I just kept most things private. However, that doesn’t work so well over time.
We all need friends. A peer group and a few colleagues have been a real blessing over the years. Friends —inside and outside the church — have steadied, encouraged, challenged and listened to me. I am so thankful for those with whom I laugh, pray, play golf, and simply stay connected to whether by phone, FB, text or email.
Frankly, I don’t know how pastors (or anyone) can make it without true friends. Far too many try to go it alone.
How about you?
Do you wish you had more—or at least one true friend? Do you want to know how to start?
Be the friend you wish you had. Here’s what to look for.
- Listens without judging.
- Helps when I am too embarrassed to ask.
- Affirms me when I doubt myself.
- Shows up for me when I am in a crisis.
- Reminds me of who I am, when I forget.
- Celebrates my wins and mourns my losses.
- Knows the things that are important to me.
- Trusts me.
If you want this kind of friend in your life, then BE this kind of friend to others.
Question—Do you wish you had a true friend? What’s preventing you from being the friend that you would love to have?